Does this feel familiar? “I often struggle to acknowledge what I like about myself- even just to myself- without a ‘but’, without confirmation from others or without an urge to ‘prove myself’ to others. People are frequently confusing to me.” Continue reading Empathy for Self-Gain: Liking Myself
Week 2: The love of your life tells you something you did triggered vulnerable feelings for them. Allow your defensive feelings to take your mindset to an episode of Law and Order. Continue reading Ways to Tell They’re Not ‘The One’ on the First Date: Tip Two
Does this feel familiar? “Addressing conflict (difference) frequently escalates to negative reactions or arguments. I frequently feel confused by people.” Continue reading Empathy for Self-Gain: Conflict
Does this feel familiar? “People and situations consistently don’t match what I expect and I often feel surprised, disappointed, frustrated or disorientated by unexpected consequences.” Continue reading Empathy for Self-Gain: Expectations
The 1970s think tank, The Bee Gees’ questioned, ‘How deep is your love, how deep is your love?’. Outlined in this piece is a reflective exercise for any curious person to explore this about themselves. Some mixed pop-culture references inside. Continue reading Is it Truman Love? A Thought Experiment
Trigger Warning: topic of emotional abuse. Quote from linked article: “I can’t reiterate enough how slowly emotional abuse can creep into your life—the first stage of complete adoration, gaslighting, and love-bombing from the abuser happens very quickly, but everything else is oftentimes so subvert you can only recognize just how bad it was once you’ve left.” Continue reading Link: “Identifying Emotional Abuse Before it Happens”
Ways to Tell They’re Not ‘The One’, Enter a Longterm Relationship and Be Surprised When it ‘Doesn’t Work Out’ (satire). Continue reading Ways to Tell They’re Not ‘The One’ on the First Date: Tip One
What to expect when you engage with this product. Continue reading Product Disclosure Statement For My Tinder Matches
Final: Why Does it Matter? Is structured as a secret magic trick* for your own mind and brain to make its own sense and conclusions.
*’secret magic trick’= not secret, magic or tricky just a pretty plainly stated outline of how our brains need time to process their own evidence for motivating decisions and understanding- the only trick is in bringing that intuitively obvious fact into consciousness. Continue reading How Can I Tell if I’m Being Valued for Myself? Part 4: Why does it matter?
Your Own Insider Cues is a typical Sunday ‘checklist’ (for anyone who knows me) of handy hints to merge your feelings with your observations to learn for yourself how you can trust yourself more confidently (maybe… Or this could just be my thing… But the collaboration of my feelings and observations makes me suspect it’s a ‘most people’ thing…). Continue reading How Can I Tell if I’m Being Valued for Myself? 3: Your Own Insider Cues