Does this feel familiar? “People and situations consistently don’t match what I expect and I often feel surprised, disappointed, frustrated or disorientated by unexpected consequences.” Continue reading Empathy for Self-Gain: Expectations
The 1970s think tank, The Bee Gees’ questioned, ‘How deep is your love, how deep is your love?’. Outlined in this piece is a reflective exercise for any curious person to explore this about themselves. Some mixed pop-culture references inside. Continue reading Is it Truman Love? A Thought Experiment
If we’re not judging and shaming the ‘bad’ behaviour out of people, what the hell else are we meant to do? People gotta change dammit!! What if one solution might be the polar opposite of our strongest judgey, shamey impusles… Continue reading Living Lists: Modelling My ‘Bad’ Behaviour 2
Final: Why Does it Matter? Is structured as a secret magic trick* for your own mind and brain to make its own sense and conclusions.
*’secret magic trick’= not secret, magic or tricky just a pretty plainly stated outline of how our brains need time to process their own evidence for motivating decisions and understanding- the only trick is in bringing that intuitively obvious fact into consciousness. Continue reading How Can I Tell if I’m Being Valued for Myself? Part 4: Why does it matter?