If we’re not judging and shaming the ‘bad’ behaviour out of people, what the hell else are we meant to do? People gotta change dammit!! What if one solution might be the polar opposite of our strongest judgey, shamey impusles… Continue reading Living Lists: Modelling My ‘Bad’ Behaviour 2
Final: Why Does it Matter? Is structured as a secret magic trick* for your own mind and brain to make its own sense and conclusions.
*’secret magic trick’= not secret, magic or tricky just a pretty plainly stated outline of how our brains need time to process their own evidence for motivating decisions and understanding- the only trick is in bringing that intuitively obvious fact into consciousness. Continue reading How Can I Tell if I’m Being Valued for Myself? Part 4: Why does it matter?
Your Own Insider Cues is a typical Sunday ‘checklist’ (for anyone who knows me) of handy hints to merge your feelings with your observations to learn for yourself how you can trust yourself more confidently (maybe… Or this could just be my thing… But the collaboration of my feelings and observations makes me suspect it’s a ‘most people’ thing…). Continue reading How Can I Tell if I’m Being Valued for Myself? 3: Your Own Insider Cues
An Insider’s Confessions: “I am always listening, caring, and valuing other people for who they are… This person talking to me about their lifelong boating passion is boring… What should I make for dinner? Hang on…” Continue reading How Can I Tell if I’m Being Valued for Myself? 1: An Insider’s Confessions
What could be some of the self-perpetuating consequences of continuing to perceive differences from the concepts of inevitability, lack, incapacity, responsibility to compensate or irritated condemnation? Continue reading Men are from Earth, Women are from Earth Part 2/3
Redirected from Men are from Earth, Women are from Earth Part 2/3 Everybody has needs, therefore we’re all ‘needy’. The most obvious behaviours of ‘neediness’ in the form of seeking care, requesting, or demanding to have needs met are just an … Continue reading Side-Note on Neediness
Are there basic needs and similarities between men and women, often unmet by our society and culture? Do we overlook these similarities by the way in which we perceive the origins of difference? Continue reading Men are from Earth, Women are from Earth Part 1/3
Often reacted to as an awkward issue… The importance of social and personal connection for men in maintaining good mental health (well, important for all humans’ mental health-our society and culture just don’t make this very easy for men).
Part of a series of posts from FB for Mental Health Month Continue reading Men, Mateship and Mental Health
20.10.18 How stressful we *perceive* small daily stressors to be may have more of an impact on our physical health than the actual number of daily stressful events. Just one extra bit of evidence on the pile linking our mindset … Continue reading Stress and Mental Health 2
18.10.18 Maybe my core query is whether examining the natural complexities within ourselves, rather than avoiding them, might have the paradoxical effect of making things function more simply? At least, in my own self-referential worldview this is how I perceive … Continue reading The Emotional Choice of Pen Colour Part 6/6