Does this feel familiar? “I often struggle to acknowledge what I like about myself- even just to myself- without a ‘but’, without confirmation from others or without an urge to ‘prove myself’ to others. People are frequently confusing to me.” Continue reading Empathy for Self-Gain: Liking Myself
Brain fertiliser: knowledge plus self-reflection equals wisdom. Intrinsic motivation- what are some examples of this for you? Continue reading Brain Fertiliser: Intrinsic Motivation?
Does this feel familiar? “People frequently don’t understand me. I don’t understand why. I frequently feel confused by people”. Continue reading Empathy for Self-Gain: Being Understood
Does this feel familiar? “Addressing conflict (difference) frequently escalates to negative reactions or arguments. I frequently feel confused by people.” Continue reading Empathy for Self-Gain: Conflict
Brain fertiliser: emotional self-awareness. Can we use jealousy to tell us about our own life goals rather than directing negative thoughts and feelings towards others? Continue reading Brain Fertiliser: Listen to Your Jealousy?
Does this feel familiar? “People and situations consistently don’t match what I expect and I often feel surprised, disappointed, frustrated or disorientated by unexpected consequences.” Continue reading Empathy for Self-Gain: Expectations
The 1970s think tank, The Bee Gees’ questioned, ‘How deep is your love, how deep is your love?’. Outlined in this piece is a reflective exercise for any curious person to explore this about themselves. Some mixed pop-culture references inside. Continue reading Is it Truman Love? A Thought Experiment
If we’re not judging and shaming the ‘bad’ behaviour out of people, what the hell else are we meant to do? People gotta change dammit!! What if one solution might be the polar opposite of our strongest judgey, shamey impusles… Continue reading Living Lists: Modelling My ‘Bad’ Behaviour 2
Final: Why Does it Matter? Is structured as a secret magic trick* for your own mind and brain to make its own sense and conclusions.
*’secret magic trick’= not secret, magic or tricky just a pretty plainly stated outline of how our brains need time to process their own evidence for motivating decisions and understanding- the only trick is in bringing that intuitively obvious fact into consciousness. Continue reading How Can I Tell if I’m Being Valued for Myself? Part 4: Why does it matter?
Your Own Insider Cues is a typical Sunday ‘checklist’ (for anyone who knows me) of handy hints to merge your feelings with your observations to learn for yourself how you can trust yourself more confidently (maybe… Or this could just be my thing… But the collaboration of my feelings and observations makes me suspect it’s a ‘most people’ thing…). Continue reading How Can I Tell if I’m Being Valued for Myself? 3: Your Own Insider Cues