Empathy for Self-Gain: Conflict

Could developing my empathy skills help improve my own experience of life?

Experiments to test whether co-opting our natural, self-interested motivations can gain mutual benefit and emotional growth.

What are your thoughts on this idea?

Other posts in this series:

  1. Empathy for Self-Gain: Expectations

Does this feel familiar?

“Addressing conflict (difference) frequently escalates to negative reactions or arguments.

I frequently feel confused by people.”

Impact

“I frequently avoid addressing conflict (difference) because I expect escalation.

This limits the closeness and understanding in my relationships.”

Empathy Experiment

Be explicit with myself:

Paying attention to all of my feelings, thoughts and behaviour, what are the values and experiences that make me feel I’m ‘right’ or my experience is valid?

Contrast with them:

What do their actions, words, behaviour and choices suggests about their feelings, thoughts, values and experiences that make them feel they’re ‘right’ or valid?

Share responsibility:

How can we share about each others’ influencing values and experiences without negating either one?

If you tried this, how did it work for you?

Or, maybe you already do something similar. Tell me, how do you use your empathy skills to address conflict and balance both parties’ needs?

Other posts in this series:

  1. Empathy for Self-Gain: Expectations

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