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brainembryos.com/empathyselfgain4 Ah! Everyone must have heard, if not thought or spoken the idea that ‘we need to like ourselves, instead of making others like us’. Social media overflows with this right? . But what does this actually mean in practice? How does our own self-esteem actually impact on our interactions with others? How do we keep a balance between healthy self-esteem and a harmful sense of superiority? . It’s actually very difficult to link this idea with a possible ‘reality’, isn’t it? That is, unless we’re also developing the skills of paying attention to our own and others behaviour and the thoughts and feelings happening at the same time within ourselves- with objective curiosity rather than judgement. . brainembryos.com/empathyselfgain4 ‘Liking Myself’ Is an upside-down paying attention ‘experiment’ to test whether paying more attention to our own needs and others’ could help with liking ourselves more. . #selflove #selflovequotes #selfesteem #empathy #empathyexperiments #empathyexperiment #relationshipgoals #relationships #empathyquotes #mindful #mindfulness #selfawareness #selfreflection #consciousness #healthyrelationships #humanneeds #lovequotes #quotestagram #quotesdaily #instaquotes #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #psychology #narcissism #narcissist #lowselfesteem

Is anyone thinking: “Holy crap! This ‘empathy’ thing is over-complicated... Everyone should just be nice to each other, simple. I am”? Simple? brainembryos.com/empathyselfgain3 . Yep, seems ‘simple’... Unless we compare our ‘theory brain’ to our ‘paying attention brain’ to notice: . •The times when someone understands what others might feel and think so well that they use it for their own unfair advantage. That requires ‘empathy’, right? And it hurts, causing intrigue and drama. . •Or, the times when someone truly believes they ‘empathise’ but it appears like they’re just feeling their own reactions. And honestly? They just seem more self-absorbed and unable to do much of use, rather than ‘empathetic’. They genuinely think they feel others experiences, right? They genuinely believe that they’re ‘caring’. But it complicates things and makes them unreliable. . •Or the times when someone, weirdly, is very honest about their own ‘selfish’ needs and feelings. But they still seem to ‘know’ exactly ‘the right thing’ to say and do that gives good outcomes for everyone. This *appears* ‘uncomplicated’ and ‘easy’ for them and everyone else. It’s often unnoticeable that they’re even doing something special in their minds and actions.... Ironically, it’s this complicated balance that seems to match our simple ideal of ‘empathy’, isn’t it? Whaaaaattttt???? Simplicity might come from complexity? . •Or, for the self-aware and self-reflective, who notice the times when this ‘someone’ is ourselves to some degree- even when the impact is minor. I’ve noticed very well that all these ‘someones’ have and can be me. . •Attention to these times highlights empathy skills as complex, needing ongoing co-operation between the feeling, thinking and acting self to be useful for a ‘simple’ life, don’t they? The good news? Empathy skills can be learnt for our own and others benefit! . #empathy #selflove #selflovequotes #cognitiveempathy #empathyexperiments #empathyexperiment #selfesteem #selfconfidence #relationships #healthyrelationships #relationshipgoals #relationshipquotes #lovequotes #selfawareness #selfreflection #mindful #mindfulness #consciousness #emotionalintelligence

Surely empathy skills and liking myself aren’t linked. Liking myself is about me, and empathy is about others. . For anyone who’s developed their self-acceptance, the link between liking themselves and understanding people might be intuitive. For anyone who is still learning to like themselves, the link probably seems illogical. . But *is* empathy only about others? What’s the risk in testing the link on yourself, if challenging your assumptions could help your self-acceptance? This experiment turns empathy from a vague idea into practical actions for your mind. Watch yourself. What happens? . #empathy #selflove #selflovequotes #cognitiveempathy #empathyexperiments #empathyexperiment #selfesteem #selfconfidence #relationships #healthyrelationships #relationshipgoals #relationshipquotes #lovequotes #selfawareness #selfreflection #mindful #mindfulness #consciousness

brainembryos.com/brain-fertiliser-intrinsic-motivation A work in continual progress for me since my teens: . I more often ‘do the right thing’ by others not because I ‘should’ or because it’s my duty or due to how I could be seen, but because it matches my own values and makes me feel good to live as a person I would like and trust. . I more often listen with curiosity, not because that makes me ‘appear’ polite and makes people like me, but because I feel genuine interest in other people and value their personal experiences. . I feel freer to express my deeper feelings and thoughts just because they’re important to me, independent of other people’s opinions of what I express, or beliefs about what’s ‘normal’ to express. I care less about ‘normal’, and more about what works. . I speak about myself with efforts at kindness towards others because kindness and respect are also important to me, and my judgements of others seem mostly useful for informing me of my own needs only. . I give much more acceptance and encouragement to other people doing the same, as I feel less attachment to how people ‘should’ appear, and more respect for the spectrum of how people are underneath the images hiding that. . I feel freer to claim my wrongdoings because I feel genuine care for my own impact on people and intuitively want to address conflict to keep us connected. . I feel more confident to do ‘weird’ things in my own way… Like display my always imperfect mind in a hobby blog just because I enjoy creating and exploring... . #brainfertiliser #brainembryos #motivation #motivationalquotes #intrinsicmotivation #selfawareness #selfreflection #knowledge #wisdom #knowledgeispower #quotes #quotestoliveby #quotesdaily #quotestagram #relationships #personaldevelopment #selfdevelopment #consciousness #lovequotes #emotionalintelligence #emotionaldevelopment

Everyone wants to be understood, right? What if part of helping ourselves to be understood is learning how to better understand others too because... Well, exactly because we all feel a need to be understood? What if ‘empathy’ isn’t only a gift for everyone else, but also a gift for ourselves? And P.S. Who doesn’t like the person described by this definition? Food for thought.... brainembryos.com/empathyselfgain3 . Skills of people with developed empathetic understanding: [They] tune into emotional cues. They listen well, and also pay attention to non-verbal communication, picking up subtle cues almost subconsciously. Show sensitivity, and understand others’ perspectives. https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/empathy.html . #empathy #cognitiveempathy #empathyexperiments #brainembryos #selfawareness #selfreflection #selfgain #shareresponsibility #healthyrelationships #understanding #personaldevelopment #consciousness #relationshipgoals #relationships #support #quotes #quotestoliveby #lovequotes #quotestagram #emotionalintelligence

Empathy experiment: could there be a link between being understood ourselves and our own understanding of other people??? Everyone says this. It’s logical in theory... But it only rings true if we can test it in our own minds and lives, doesn’t it? Link in bio/Find it at: brainembryos.com/empathyselfgain3 . . . #empathy #cognitiveempathy #conflict #understanding #understood #misunderstood #understandme #empathyexperiment #selfgain #personaldevelopment #selfawareness #relationshipgoals #relationships #relationshipquotes #lovequotes #mentalhealth #selfcare #emotionalintelligence #quotestagram #dating #marriage #friendship #work #healthyrelationships #mindfulness #mindfulawareness #empathyinaction #mindfulnessinaction #selfreflection #thoughtprocesses

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